Tuesday, February 19, 2013

Another Driver At Our House...

THIS GUY finally decided he wanted to get his license.  I haven't pushed him cause I don't mind them waiting as LONG as possible :) Heaven help me with two teenager drivers in the house now!  What does this mean for me?  More sleepless, late nights waiting for them to get home safely and more waiting with baited breath to hear calm, safe voices every time they call when they are out.  I wonder, do you ever stop worrying about your children?  Even when they are grown with families of their own?  I would guess not.

Friday, February 8, 2013

Technology... A love/hate relationship...

Sometimes I wonder... what on earth did we do before cell phones??? I didn't have a cell phone as a kid.  There was no such thing.  I remember when the cordless phones came out and I was just happy not to be attached to a wall when I talked on the phone to my friends for hours at a time.  If we wanted to communicate with someone we had to actually call them or meet them to speak face to face. 

Heck, we didn't have the Internet either!  My kids laugh when I tell them that for school projects we actually had to go to a library and do research and use encyclopedias.  We actually owned recipe books and made trips to the music store to buy tapes or cd's if we wanted to listen to music. We hand wrote letters and put a stamp on them instead of sending emails or texting.

Boy how time has changed things in this world.  Technology has made so many things easier but I think in some ways it has also inadvertently stripped the world of the ability to really communicate and function face to face with each other.

I recently read an article about a mother who bought her child an iPhone for Christmas, but with that iPhone came a contract!  As I read the contract I found some pretty cool ideas to implement in my/our families life to help combat some of the issues we face as a family due to the fact that we are simply often over-attached to our cell phones.  I have made some positive changes in my life that have brought me a lot closer to my kids, so I thought I would share this article with my family and friends... just in case it can help you too!  Is technology a bad thing?  Of course not!  But personally I have found that I need to set limits and make sure that I'm not more in to my phone than I am my family :)  Take a read and see what you think.  While I don't necessarily think every rule here works for my family, there really are some fantastic points:

"Dear Gregory
Merry Christmas! You are now the proud owner of an iPhone. Hot Damn! You are a good and responsible 13-year-old boy and you deserve this gift. But with the acceptance of this present comes rules and regulations. Please read through the following contract. I hope that you understand it is my job to raise you into a well rounded, healthy young man that can function in the world and coexist with technology, not be ruled by it. Failure to comply with the following list will result in termination of your iPhone ownership.
I love you madly and look forward to sharing several million text messages with you in the days to come.
1. It is my phone. I bought it. I pay for it. I am loaning it to you. Aren't I the greatest?2. I will always know the password.
3. If it rings, answer it. It is a phone. Say hello, use your manners. Do not ever ignore a phone call if the screen reads "Mom" or "Dad." Not ever.
4. Hand the phone to one of your parents promptly at 7:30 p.m. every school night and every weekend night at 9:00 p.m. It will be shut off for the night and turned on again at 7:30 a.m. If you would not make a call to someone's land line, wherein their parents may answer first, then do not call or text. Listen to those instincts and respect other families like we would like to be respected.
5. It does not go to school with you. Have a conversation with the people you text in person. It's a life skill. *Half days, field trips and after school activities will require special consideration.
6. If it falls into the toilet, smashes on the ground, or vanishes into thin air, you are responsible for the replacement costs or repairs. Mow a lawn, babysit, stash some birthday money. It will happen, you should be prepared.
7. Do not use this technology to lie, fool, or deceive another human being. Do not involve yourself in conversations that are hurtful to others. Be a good friend first or stay the hell out of the crossfire.
8. Do not text, email, or say anything through this device you would not say in person.
9. Do not text, email, or say anything to someone that you would not say out loud with their parents in the room. Censor yourself.
10. No porn. Search the web for information you would openly share with me. If you have a question about anything, ask a person -- preferably me or your father.
11. Turn it off, silence it, put it away in public. Especially in a restaurant, at the movies, or while speaking with another human being. You are not a rude person; do not allow the iPhone to change that.
12. Do not send or receive pictures of your private parts or anyone else's private parts. Don't laugh. Someday you will be tempted to do this despite your high intelligence. It is risky and could ruin your teenage/college/adult life. It is always a bad idea. Cyberspace is vast and more powerful than you. And it is hard to make anything of this magnitude disappear -- including a bad reputation.
13. Don't take a zillion pictures and videos. There is no need to document everything. Live your experiences. They will be stored in your memory for eternity.
14. Leave your phone home sometimes and feel safe and secure in that decision. It is not alive or an extension of you. Learn to live without it. Be bigger and more powerful than FOMO (fear of missing out).
15. Download music that is new or classic or different than the millions of your peers that listen to the same exact stuff. Your generation has access to music like never before in history. Take advantage of that gift. Expand your horizons.
16. Play a game with words or puzzles or brain teasers every now and then.
17. Keep your eyes up. See the world happening around you. Stare out a window. Listen to the birds. Take a walk. Talk to a stranger. Wonder without googling.
18. You will mess up. I will take away your phone. We will sit down and talk about it. We will start over again. You and I, we are always learning. I am on your team. We are in this together. 
It is my hope that you can agree to these terms. Most of the lessons listed here do not just apply to the iPhone, but to life. You are growing up in a fast and ever changing world. It is exciting and enticing. Keep it simple every chance you get. Trust your powerful mind and giant heart above any machine. I love you. I hope you enjoy your awesome new iPhone.

Wednesday, February 6, 2013

My life in quotes...

That one is just a disclaimer... ;)